I think I've got it, pretty sure it was that center pin... I tried to pry it open and close the female side. I cinched it together with a zip tie and its working as it should. Thanks again for your help.
Its not the fuse, I changed it again but it don't look blown and I have power both sides. I have 12.7 volts at fuse and 10.2 volts at switch... test light is bright at fuse and barely comes on at switch.
OK, I ran a jumper wire from positive side of battery to switch... dash lit up and motor turned over on start. I'm thinking its someplace between fuse at motor and switch???
I unplugged connection at motor, didn't see any corrosion or broken pins... cleaned with CRC Electric cleaner and put some CRC Dialectric Grease on pins. Still nothing...
98 w/75 hp... turn key and have nothing, no dash, no start. Trim at motor works but not at throttle/shift or front. Fish finders, bilge pump, aireator pump, and lights work. Everything worked 2 weeks ago, now its dead.